All posts by Nichole Kay

Nichole Kay moved to Arizona from North Dakota with her husband 10 years ago. Starting over in a new place has been difficult but it has been worth the challenges. Nichole has two beautiful little girls that are her world. They are 5 and 3, their main job is keeping her extremely busy. On top of writing and taking care of her family; Nichole works a full time and part time job. She is looking forward to being able to write more, as she has other story ideas and continuing the series. She also wants to spend more time with her family. Children are our future and she wants to ensure they get as much attention as possible.

Easy Pancake Recipe

Any Kind of Pancake Recipe

Total Time:
5 minute for prep
30 minutes or so for cooking, we usually use a skillet to speed up the process.

Quick and Easy Recipe

Ingredients:
1 Boxed Cake mix (Any flavor works)
1/2 cup flour
2 eggs
2 cups Milk
1/4 cup oil

Instructions:

Mix all the ingredients in a large bowl.  Pre-heat skillet or pan and then spray with cooking spray  or butter to prevent sticking. You want to use medium heat.  Pour out about 2 to 3 inch round pancake out and wait for it to bubble up and then flip it, the other side should be golden brown.  It’s about a minute or two per side.  Feel free to get creative and drop two small 1 inch round pancakes close and large 3 inch to connect and you have a nice Mikey pancake the kids will love!

Rags to Riches

Everyone loves a rages to riches story. I’m not sure this would really qualify as one. I’ve never lived in rags, nor been any of the things or experienced any of the things associated with being poor. I’ve lived a pretty middle class way of life always over extending myself and living beyond my means. I always heard that you have to live the life you want, well that only works for so long. As I think about where I’m at currently, I can’t help but wonder where I’ll be this time next year. However, to fully appreciate where I end up, I think you need to understand where I started.

I’ve always lived a fairly middle class existence and I always dreamed of having more than I had. Not really wanting to have all the expensive things in life and shop at department stores and spend an insane amount of money on designer items, I just wanted to be comfortable. I want to be able to buy what I want, and when I want it. I also don’t want to have to really think about money, I never thought that was asking too much. I also always knew the only one who was going to get me there was me and I have to work hard for what I want.

I had a game plan to achieve my goals, anyone who is remotely successful has a game plan. For a project for class in high school we had to write some answers to questions and where we would be in 5 or 10 years, essentially a letter to our future self with where we would be. My game plan was to go to school and become a lawyer, I’d study psychology because the major interested me and I thought it would help me in law if I understood how people think. While I was going to school and working full time I was going to get my paralegal certification so I could start getting experience and make a decent living to pay for law school. I was going to go to law school in Berkeley where I would end up living in Cali with my current boy friend at the time. Well you can tell by reading this, that is not how things turned out. So what happened to my road map and my perfectly planned life, well life happened and I realized I didn’t have it all figured out. Also it was all so much harder than I ever imagined.

Looking back I realize it didn’t have to be that hard, I could have achieved that goal and those dreams but honestly those dreams died long ago. I realized it was not what I wanted and I’m happy how things have turned out. I used to think a lot about the past and how I should have done things differently. I also thought a lot about the future and tried and planned how things would be. Now I’m starting to just live, set a goal and see if I get there. Life is a lot more enjoyable if you just live in the moment.

Now the question remains how did I achieve this level of Zen in my life currently. Anyone who knows me, knows I’ve never been like that. I’m always wound a little tight, trying to figure multiple things out at once. There have been a few life changing events, realizations or epiphanies for me. These have changed my life and redirected my path and helped me get to where I am today. The first was definitely when I was turning 25.

My 25th birthday was the hardest birthday for me thus far. Thirty wasn’t  even a blip on the screen like 25 was. To me that was the age where everything was figured out, where you finally started to live your life and start your career. Almost like the game of life. I had been checking the things off in life you needed to be successful and have the perfect life. Go to school, marriage, house, job/career, animals, big move and thoughts about babies. Sounds perfect right? Well it would have been but it didn’t all come together. I dropped out of college, I sold my house to move but we ended up in Arizona and not California. I am married so that was one thing I felt accomplished at, which almost made me feel worse that nothing else was where I wanted it to be at. I was working at a call center which I didn’t enjoy. I was living with my parents, my husband, my two dogs and a cat in a 10×10 room because I was just trying to figure out my next move after taking such a big step by moving. I was so upset, 25 was when all this should have been figured out and I should have my degree and be starting my life, not starting over.

So I did what anyone with a quarter life crisis does, I figured out what my path was going to be to get what I wanted, which was to live comfortably. I knew my current path was not going to get me there. I quit my job, worked as waitress so I could go back to school and have more flexibility with a school schedule. I eventually graduated, got a new job where I could progress and excel. I bought a house. My high school reunion was coming up and I was talking to my sister about it. I had to re-evaluate my place in life. I was about 28 and she said something along the lines of, you aren’t where you want to be. However, I felt I was. I wasn’t where I thought I’d be as in a lawyer living in California making tons of money. I was however, moving up in my company, had accomplished some goals and saw my life back on track for being comfortable and not having to worry about money. For the first time in my life I didn’t live pay check to pay check. I couldn’t have whatever I wanted but I definitely got more than I had before. I have two beautiful girls and a few promotions and life was great.

Every time things are going well life hands you some challenges to see how strong you are. My husband lost his job, he went back to school and we had a single income for over a year. I stayed strong and made it through as hard and challenging as it was but we survived. The only problem was I never changed my lifestyle or gave anything up. This helped put us in huge debt. With the challenges at home and work I was extremely stressed and overwhelmed. I didn’t really know who I was. Shopping helped ease the frustration but it wasn’t enough, I needed some changes. I was struggling with who I was, I didn’t even know anymore as I was just doing what I needed to, and just tried to accomplish the goals at hand. Finally, I decided to make a change and got a new job, two actually. The first was selling insurance where I saw the potential of reaching that lifestyle I dreamed of where I wasn’t worried about money. The other was a job to pay the bills and help alleviate the stress from work. I did both these jobs for a year. I kept telling myself to fake it till I made it. There were days I was super stressed and upset again but overall I was happy again. I started realizing who I was  again. I filled my phone saving inspirational quotes, I remembered all the past self help books and what they had done to get me where I was. I wasn’t really faking the happiness, possibly the motivation but overall I was happy with rediscovering who I was and being the person and mom I needed to be.

As I’m writing this, I’m pretty happy with the path my life is on and the turn it has taken. We finally have a two income family and a plan to pay off the mistakes we made in the past. I still have a major shopping problem but I’m trying. Last year for my birthday I got to go indoor sky diving. I think last year was discovering life and learning to let the stress and frustration of the past go. This year for my birthday we went to goodwill on half price Saturday and bought a few things. I love the hunt and search for deals and you can definitely find some gems at goodwill. On my actual birthday I’m having a party, the first in quite some time, but it will be while playing bingo. I also have a major gambling itch. So I’m trying to learn to work with the things I enjoy but not breaking the bank. I’m no longer super concerned with money and being financially comfortable, all that comes with time, dedication and patience. Patience is something I’m learning. I’m rich with a great family and the real lesson in being happy has been to just be happy. Let go of the past, set a goal for the future and live in the moment to achieve your goals. Little changes and things done today will have a major impact in the future it just takes time for it all to happen. I’m not a patient person and this is a super challenge for me. I’ve learned to accept that and focus on being more willing to wait for things. I also learned I suck at sales and am giving up my dream of financial freedom with the help of selling insurance. Now I’m hoping that my writing can be that conduit. I know that it will take time and a lot of work. However this is the first time I feel really comfortable and excited with my career choice and how things are going. I’m okay with this decision and I’m curious what my next birthday will be like. I know now that this year I have everything I need and I couldn’t be happier. I’m truly rich already.

Update:

That post if you suffered through it, was a  draft I wrote around September 2016.  I was definitely on the right path and have be working hard this past year towards my goals.  There have been hiccups along the way and I haven’t accomplished everything I wanted.  But I am not where I was last year and that is a good thing.  I’ve actually stopped buying things and focusing more on needs instead of wants and impulses.  I pay the bills and set an amount we have to live off till next pay day.  I bargain shop and eat at home.  I am  doing things I have never done before.  All the lessons I should have learned but never bothered to pay attention, because I had it all figured out after all.  Well now I know, I don’t have anything figured out.  All I have are things I want and the only way to get what you want is to create a plan and set a course.  If you fail, it is probably because you didn’t stick with the plan.

Well as I write this, it is almost September again, a year later. This year I am going to celebrate my birthday doing one of those escape rooms.  Something I have wanted for awhile. I cannot wait to invite my friends and hang out for the day.  I am going to get it by having a garage sale the week before so I have extra money to pay for my fun day. Learning to save and wait to do something till you can afford it, or making extra money to get it, these are the things I have learned this year.  It is not fun and I don’t always do it, but I will.  I am going to continue to work towards my goals, being financially independent, healthy and published.  I may not achieve all of them by this time next year, but I will accomplish one of them, I just have to stick with the plan.

Grandma’s Banana Bread

Grandma’s Banana Bread
Total Time:
About 30 Minutes
Quick and Easy Recipe
Ingredients:

1/2 Cup Brown Sugar
1/4 Cup Shortening (I Prefer Crisco Sticks for ease and saving for later)
1 Egg
2 Bananas Mashed *Need to be ripe for better flavor (I prefer 4)
1/4 Cup water
1 Cup Flour
1/2 tsp Baking Powder
1/2 tsp Baking Soda
1/4 Salt
Walnuts *Optional

Preparation:
Pre-Heat Oven to 350°F
Grease 13 x 9 Pan or Loaf Pan

Directions:
Mix all ingredients in the mixer till they are well combined. It is okay if there is still little chunks of banana and shortening.

Note:

You can double this recipe to get thicker banana bread in the 13 x9 pan.  If you double the recipe you will need at least 2 loaf pans.  We like to maximize the soft crust so we prefer the 13×9 pans.

Time:
This will bake about 20 minutes in a 13 x 9.  If you use a different size pan you will want to check on it after 20 minutes and increase time as needed. The center should be light golden brown and clean with a toothpick.

Home Cooking

My previous munchie post was well received and made me reminisce about the first things I ever cooked, especially when I was living on my own. My family did not make extravagant meals and we tended to stick to a few basics and rotated through. I rarely saw my mother use a recipe and there was definitely no Pinterest inspiring her to try new things. Regardless there were a few things my mother made that I couldn’t live without and still can’t. After I moved out, I’d start to crave something and ask my mom for the recipe. Those conversations went one of three ways. 

The first way was what a lot of people discover about some of their favorite baked goods, it’s on the back of the box. This is how this traumatic event played out for me. I had been craving chocolate chip cookies for awhile. I wanted to try something new and decided I was going to make chocolate chip cookies. I knew my family had a good homemade recipe for cookies. I called my mom and asked for my grandma’s cookie recipe. She replied back, “what cookie recipe?” I thought to myself, are you serious, what do you mean what recipe? I held in all my thoughts and replied simply, ” The chocolate chip cookie one. They always turn out perfect like store bought but I don’t want store bought, I want to make them fresh.” ” oh it’s on the back of the bag of chocolate chips. ” “No, the one where they come out just a little raised and gooey in the center.” ” Yeah it’s on the bag of chocolate chips.” I was crushed. I felt I was going to get some time honoured tradition where it’s handed down to the first born daughter in every family. I was in denial at first and figured my mom was just confused. I tried the recipe to prove her wrong. I was ready to call her as soon as they came out of the oven and tell her she’s wrong. They came out perfect. I figured they probably taste just like the store bought, nope they were just how I remembered them. I didn’t know if I was more upset that I felt like my family cookie recipe was a fraud or if I was annoyed my mom was right. However, I was able to move on and enjoy my cookies and forget about the betrayal. 

The second type of recipe I’d get from my mom was the, “a little of this.” Any true cook has those recipes where they just put a little of this and a little of that and know by smell, look and taste if they got it right. Well this is not a concept I enjoy. Frankly, it drives me insane. I’ve been cooking for awhile, I always use a recipe. That’s why it always turned out perfect, cause I followed directions. People always complimented my cooking, I said I just followed the recipe. 

Every holiday my mom made these amazing beans. We always brought them to events, they were always a hit and I loved them. I loved them cold, I loved them hot. I loved them in a pot, I loved them a lot.  One holiday I said, “you’ll have to give me the recipe some day.” Again I was thinking this was some guarded family secret, more guarded than the Bush baked beans recipe. She replied with of course and started rattling off ingredients. I stopped her and went and grabbed a pen. I said the ingredients I knew, she filed in the blanks. Then I asked, okay so how much of each?  She replied with bunches, one or two depending on size and a little of each of those. I looked at her like she was crazy. How on earth would I know how to duplicate the beans without exact measurements. I asked for further clarification, after a large amount of prying I finally got her to give me a few measurements to work with. However, after the first time I made them I never followed the recipe again. I did add a little more of that and a little less of that. Every time I make them they are a little different but no matter what they are always amazing. That recipe taught me to try it with other things I made.  Now my favorite thing to do is read reviews of what other people did when they made the item. I can always find great fixes and ways to improve a recipe. I also tend to change things up now and again depending on what I have handy. It’s always a blast to discover your experiment actually turns out. It always makes me feel like a real cook. Their best recipes are always memorized. 

Finally, on rare occasions when I ask my mom for a recipe she actually has to find it. Now those are the best recipes. Those are the ones handed down, have been tried over and over and are absolute perfection. They are always fairly simple recipes but they are by far the best recipes. One of my favorite things to eat was always banana bread. My grandma made the best banana bread. One day I had some bananas that were getting old, I thought I should make my grandma’s banana bread. I called my mom to ask for the recipe. I was waiting to be directed to the back of a package, or  told just a few random ingredients to make it but she shocked me. She couldn’t find it the last time she was going to make it. I called my grandma, she replied with she needed to look for it. I called my uncle, he kept track  of everything. He wasn’t sure what he did with it. I was shocked! No one knew where this treasured family recipe was and I wanted to make banana bread. As I was waiting for someone to call back with my recipe, my boyfriend decided that banana bread sounded good and used my bananas and made some. I was thrilled to come home to the smell of banana bread. I asked where he got the recipe since I was still on the hunt for mine. He replied that he used the one on the bag of flour. I thought to myself here are my dreams of a huge family secret recipe about to come crashing down. As I took my first bite, it wasn’t how I remembered it. It was good but not as good as grandma’s. 

After waiting and asking a lot, I finally got my recipe, Grandma’s banana bread. I talked it up a lot. I was worried it wouldn’t be as good as I remembered, but when I finally finished it and the whole house smelled like banana bread, I realized it was worth the wait. It was moist and soft and the perfect ratio of banana. It was absolutely amazing and better than I remembered. I was immediately transported back to when my grandma made her banana bread, I was so happy. Then I waited to see his reaction when he tried it. We’d grown up with different banana breads in our lives, we’d been trying other recipes, none that were my banana bread though. Would he feel the same or would we be a house divided that had to make two different banana breads. Luckily he loved it and we’ve always used the same recipe. So what better way than share my favorite family recipe. You may say it’s common or on the back of some box, but this will always be my grandma’s recipe, the one that took time to find. The one that no one else compares to. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do, the recipe is located here:  

Grandma’s Banana Bread 

Also if I do make something and show pictures but don’t post a recipe, it’s more than likely because it looked way better than it tasted. I’m also not going to share recipes unless they are worth sharing. Every calorie consumed on food that doesn’t taste good, is a calorie wasted. I always want to enjoy my food and I do not eat anything because I need to eat. I have to enjoy it. Therefore, I’m never going to recommend any food unless it’s worth that extra gym time or pound. You can only eat so much and I love food and I am going to ensure everything I eat is worth it. 

Thyroid Cancer

I wrote this around February.  I never really meant anyone to see it. I considered publishing it possibly in a medical journal so that others with Thyroid cancer could possibly find something to relate to.  I am not sure if everyone has the same experience I have had with Thyroid Cancer but this is about my experience and my feelings.  I want to premise this with, overall I am extremely lucky with my diagnosis.  I know others have not been as lucky as me and my heart goes out to each one of them. Cancer is a horrible thing to be diagnosed with and live with.  The treatment options available seem worse than the cancer itself and I hope the future brings better treatment options.

Why Thyroid Cancer Sucks!

“Of all the cancers you can have, thyroid cancer is the best.” That is what everyone told me while I was going through the unknown, wondering if I had thyroid cancer or not. It all started innocent enough. I decided to go to my doctor because I was feeling lethargic. I didn’t really think much of it. I had two little girls at home and just wanted to have everything checked out to make sure I would see them grow up. I figured as usual I had nothing to worry about and I was just being a hypochondriac which I tended to do a lot. The first step is always admitting you have a problem, right?

That is when it all started. The doctor called back and said my test results were weird and they were sending me to see a thyroid specialist. Weird? What does that even mean I wondered, but I didn’t really give it much thought. I went to my appointment with hopes and dreams that finally my fatigue would get in check and I would possibly start losing weight because obviously my thyroid was messed up and causing all my problems. The doctor confirmed my results were “weird” and ordered a huge panel of tests. He felt my neck and decided to do an ultra sound. This was the first time I heard the word cancer and thought no way could that even be possible. He did the ultra sound and found a nodule, it was fairly large and nonchalantly stated we needed to biopsy it to determine if it was cancer. However, I had no reason to worry cause thyroid cancer was rare. I put it out of my mind, I was young. I just had two beautiful healthy baby girls. No one in my family ever had thyroid cancer, or any cancer that I was aware of. I had never even heard of thyroid cancer before. I went about my life as there was no possibility that this would impact me, I pushed it out of my mind.

The day of the biopsy I felt we were just being overly pre-cautious. My other lab results came back perfectly normal so I had nothing to worry about. The biopsy was unpleasant and hurt. I hate needles so much and that day was no exception. It was quick, slightly painful and I ended up with a beautiful band aid and ice pack, I figured that was the end of that. A few days later I got a call that there was about 20% chance that the nodule was cancer and I had to go in for another biopsy. That was a scary call, I realized that I have went from “weird” test results, to there is a lump on your neck let’s do an ultrasound, to that is a large nodule we need to biopsy it, don’t worry thyroid cancer is rare and there is only about a 6% chance of it being cancer, to my chances have just increased and this seems like a real possibility.

The second biopsy I brought my husband, I wasn’t sure I would be able to fully understand what was going on. They kept saying cancer but not to worry and I was screaming inside wondering how am I not supposed to worry. The second biopsy hurt about as much as the first and the conversation was about as pointless and no concern as it was rare and if it was cancer it was no big deal as there would be surgery to remove the thyroid and a radioactive pill to kill the remaining cells and I would be good to go. However, I felt like I was missing something, it couldn’t be that easy could it? Was it really no big deal like everyone keeps telling me? The second biopsy was done and my results came back with a higher percentage chance of it being cancer but they still weren’t sure. It was up to me if I removed the half of the thyroid with the nodule as a precaution, it was after all 3 cm in size and may have been causing some swallowing issues I was having. Being the overly cautious hypochondriac I am, I decided to go through with the surgery.

Every time I brought up what I was going through looking for support and help to digest what was going on I was met with some really poor support. The medical community treated it like it was not a big deal and it wasn’t definitively cancer so there was nothing to worry about at this time. My family and friends had no idea how to react, cancer is terrifying so they tried to be supportive but no one was sure it was cancer so what do you really do? They tried to be optimistic and say that I’d remove half my thyroid and that would be the end of it. I was just numb and not really sure what to think at this point and just went through the motions of what I needed to do.

My first appointment with a surgeon was the worst experience with a doctor I have ever had. They were an hour late, I went in and we were already making a follow up appointment and we didn’t even do anything this appointment. I mentioned my concern about it being cancer and what would happen next. I was told I was worrying about something that we were not even needing to worry about at this point and we didn’t need to discuss it. I would come back in for a follow up and then we would have the surgery. I wondered what the point of this appointment even was. I was incredibly upset when I left the appointment. I had my husband with me and I asked him if the doctor was being difficult and insensitive. For the first time since this all started he actually gave a definitive opinion and agreed he was not very pleasant. I immediately called my doctor office and got a referral for another doctor. Which was not something I wanted to do, I didn’t want to have to wait for another appointment. I just wanted this out of my body so I could move on with my life and forget the word cancer was even mentioned. The not knowing was driving me crazy and I felt like this cloud was hanging over me and in a moment it would just be more than I could handle.

My second appointment was a night and day experience. The doctor was amazing. He didn’t make me wait and he actually did an exam. We would schedule the surgery and there was no need for an appointment before hand. I was already feeling so much better with this doctor, I felt safe. I then asked him the question that I knew the answer to but I still needed to understand it. What if it is cancer? He replied just how I needed to hear it. Not how everyone else had been saying but what I needed to hear. We are not there yet, so don’t worry about it. However, if it is cancer we will then remove the full thyroid. While you are under we will biopsy the nodule and if it is cancer, while you are still under I will remove the rest. If it comes back as not cancer, we will send it away to make sure and on rare occasions you will have to come back and have the rest removed. I felt at ease and now I was just dreading the scar on my neck I would have the rest of my life. I already started buying scarves in anticipation. I googled images of other peoples scars to prepare myself.  I discovered the more I talked about my ordeal the more I found out about others who had their thyroid removed. I was impressed with the recovery, even though I felt like the scar would always be a giant sign that said, “Hey look! I had my thyroid removed!”

The surgery happened, it was scary cause it was surgery. Good news it wasn’t cancer and only half my thyroid was removed. Everyone was right and I had nothing to worry about. I went home and started to enjoy my leave and recovery. The Wednesday after the surgery I got a call. I will never forget this call. They said that my lab results came back and it was cancer and the doctor wanted to see me and have the rest of the thyroid removed. He wanted this done quickly so I had little time to heal and the surgery would go easier.  Everything was scheduled very quickly and I was just numb. I cried. I always knew it was cancer the moment they used the c word. I was in denial but I knew this was going to happen. I was trying to be optimistic about the whole ordeal but my worse fears were answered. I knew what to expect. I had already prepared myself. It wasn’t a big deal, it was going to be removed and I would go about my life cancer free and it would be all okay. I had to be strong for my girls and for everyone around me. After all thyroid cancer is the best cancer to get, that’s what they all kept telling me.

I had the surgery, I had my follow up appointments. I now had the wonderful joy of seeing my endocrinologist every 6 months. We would have some blood tests, yay more needles. He would ask how I was, I would complain I was tired. It is expected, he would look at my blood tests and everything would be fine and we would see each other in another 6 months. I started to live my life 6 months at a time. I would have 5 months of carefree, no thought about cancer. I didn’t even care about my scar anymore, my doctor did an amazing job and I barely noticed it. However, every time I had to get my blood work, I would start to get that nervous feeling that it would come back and I would have to really experience what everyone else has had to go through with cancer. So far I thought how lucky I am. I only have to see the doctor every 6 months, have some blood work and I am good to go for another 6 months.

They never tell you though you will live in fear the rest of your life that the cancer will come back and you will not be so lucky to remove an organ and be on with your life. They never tell you that there are other tests you have to go through to ensure they are not missing any signs of the cancer. An ultra sound to get a baseline of where you are. That was the easy test. The full body scan you have to do after the ultrasound because they found thyroid cells and are concerned. The full body scan is awful because you cannot help but wonder, will it find something? Of course none of these tests are quick so you never get told the results quickly. You never get to find out you need to take the test, take the test and get the results all in the same day. No all of it happens for weeks,  which ensures you really get to wonder and become full of worry and concern. However, you can never really express this because again you are lucky it was just thyroid cancer, you haven’t had to go through what others have with cancer. You haven’t had chemo or radiation, you just have a few tests you have to take every once in awhile.

You have to be strong for your family. No one really seems to understand thyroid cancer. They just hear cancer and immediately are worried for you. You pretend it is no big deal to help ensure them that you are okay. However, inside you are scared to death because you know for the rest of your life you have to wonder how long will it really be no big deal. You can’t really voice your concern with medical professionals cause it’s just a test, you are lucky it was only thyroid cancer, there is no real concern here. It’s when you meet other people that have thyroid cancer do you really get a good idea of what it means. This is what no one tells you, or really comprehends.

When you talk to other thyroid cancer patients, they will all play it off as no big deal because that it was we are told. We all had the same surgery and now no longer have a thyroid. We have our scar that we do not notice anymore. Some of us had radiation after our surgery to limit the chance of our thyroid cancer coming back, some of us didn’t. However, we all spend the rest of our lives going to appointments to make sure we are still okay. We all struggle with our medications. We have no thyroid and we have to take high doses of thyroid medication to ensure that our thyroid cells are not active and risk re-creating the cancer. This causes problems that only a person without a thyroid can understand. Imagine being completely exhausted most of the time. When you wake up in the morning you can barely get out of bed until you have had your thyroid medicine which makes you feel like you can actually start the day. You cannot eat for 30 to 60 minutes after taking it, so you really have to plan your day. Everyone has different medications and doses, it is the most un-exact science, it feels. No medicine or dose works for everyone, it’s a series of guesses and checks. The worst is if you end up having too much you become hyperactive thyroid and the world just spins and you cannot do anything till your levels get back in balance. When you actually talk to people who are going through this, you discover all of the things no one can prepare you for.

I am lucky I only had thyroid cancer. I get to spend the rest of my life wondering if it will come back and if I won’t be as lucky. I will spend the rest of my life having various tests done hoping they never show anything. I get to be a guinea pig with my medicine and spend a life time in trial and error hoping to feel some what normal. I cannot complain to anyone cause I am lucky it was only thyroid cancer. I do not have all the horror stories other cancer patients have, going through chemo and radiation. I do not have the understanding of how deadly cancer can be. I have convinced myself that I really do not have cancer, I cannot complain about it or worry about it because I see what others have to go through and I think how lucky I am. Once in awhile though, I have to have a test that just terrifies me to no end wondering if my luck will run out. I wonder will I ever have my medication in order to feel normal and what is normal anymore. I am very lucky I do not have the experiences of most cancer patients. I am going through something that only fellow thyroid cancer patients can understand. They say it is rare but I have met a lot of them, we all fear the unknown and we are all just trying to make it through the day and feel normal. We cannot ask for help because we got lucky and are not going through real cancer problems. We silently put on a brave face and think how lucky we are, when on the inside we are screaming for understanding and someone to help us through it all.

Recently my appointments have been moved up to every three months. My medication is messed up, I think.  If I take my full does my face goes numb and my fingers are numb.  The only thing I can do is ride out the day.  I also get incredibly irritable and am a nightmare to be around.  I am working with my doctor to get my dosing right, but he is not entirely convinced it is related to the thyroid.  So here I am a female, with no gall bladder, no thyroid and in child bearing years. If I say I am nauseated or dizzy they immediately ask if I am pregnant.  No one knows what is causing my symptoms and I just go from one doctor to another trying to figure out the cause. I have a doctor for everything.  I never thought I would be just over 30 years, with a medicine cabinet full of of various medications and multiple doctors in my address book. I can hold my own with any older person in a health conversation and I feel they tend to feel sorry for me. It’s been quite the experience and I hope if this helps one person feel they are not alone it was worth writing.  Also I have discovered that Medical Marijuana has really helped with a lot of my symptoms my constant nausea, dizziness and overwhelming stress and anxiety of the unknown. My doctors don’t even say anything when I say I have my card, it’s almost like they know it is a better choice than the countless prescriptions they would have to prescribe for the same results.

If you have any questions or can relate to my experience. I would love to hear your comments.  I do enjoy hearing about others experiences.  It makes me feel like I am not completely alone going through this all by myself.  Thank you for listening, I hope it was informative.